I am 14 and I have fixed braces now. i started my treatment with headgear. i was supposed to wear it from 5pm until 8:30am (which ment i had to wear it on the bus to school) I had my headgear for 9 months. I was supposed to weart it 1 hole tighter every 3 weeks, which i didn't. In the end my orthodontist had to cut the neck strap shorter so that i could only wear it tight.It got to the stage when i wasn't wearing it at all. After 9 months I had a removable plate as well as my headgear. I had to tighten my plate with a screw every week. After 6 weeks when we went back i hadn't worn my headgear at all so my orthodontist glued it in and i couldn't take it out at all for 18 months. It was torture. I had 3 types of headgear in total. Now i have a fixed brace and a double headgear. I had it glued in permenantly for 6 months and now I only wear it at night, which I actually do because it is HORRIBLE having it in 24/7 for 2 years!! I will have to wear it for another 4 moths, then hopefully i can stop wearing it. I also wear elastic's, I used to have coil springs.
I feel very sorry for you having to weat headgear and I know how horrible it is. But I suggest that you do wear it the whole time in your hosue and everynight, even, if you feel able, at sleepovers, your family will get used to it as will you. I wish you luck with it!!!