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Offline Jonny 12

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Re: Wife's braces journey
« Reply #60 on: 19. May 2017, 14:40:41 PM »
Welcome Carrie.You look great anyway,but in your braces wow.you seem to wear them with confidence.Like the photos and video Mike has been doing.Mikes a very lucky guy that you wear braces for him and also that you love sport as well.what more could a man ask for lol.

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« Reply #61 on: 19. May 2017, 16:22:04 PM »
Hi and welcome! Your braces really suit you! You also have excellent taste in sunglasses ;)

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Re: Wife's braces journey
« Reply #62 on: 19. May 2017, 19:41:00 PM »
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I hear you, Bradhov! As I like to say about Phoenix sports fans, we're some of god's most pathetic creatures.

Thank you all for the kind welcome to Carrie.

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« Reply #63 on: 20. May 2017, 00:52:56 AM »
Let me also say welcome to Carrie and thank you for sharing your story. It gives me hope. Carrie how did Mike win you over finally? Was it a long process?

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« Reply #64 on: 21. May 2017, 21:51:45 PM »
Thank you everyone for being so welcoming.

Bradhov - I wanted to answer your question about bite stoppers. I'd like to start by saying that I don't typically do much complaining about anything braces related. I got them for Mike and I certainly don't want to make him feel guilty about any discomfort I experience. But since you asked, and you're getting them yourself, I'll be completely honest.

I hate the bite stoppers. They drive me nuts. It's not very difficult to adjust to how they feel in your mouth, in general. It feels strange not being able to close your teeth all the way together like you're accustomed to, but you get used to that easily enough. The thing I still haven't gotten used to is eating with bite stoppers. Since I can't bite my teeth together, the only place where there is contact between top and bottom is where the bite stops hit my bottom teeth. It makes it very difficult to chew certain foods. Eating has become a bit of a nuisance.

Sorry to give you negative information, but I hope it is helpful. I should also mention that mine are pretty big. I had a bracket come loose after a few weeks in braces. It happened because one of my top teeth was hitting the bracket, so when I went in to get it repaired they made my bite stops bigger. Hopefully yours will be smaller. Good luck!

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« Reply #65 on: 21. May 2017, 22:23:50 PM »
Mr. Majestic - I also want to answer your question about Mike convincing me to get braces. It certainly was a long process, but that husband of mine is extremely persistent and he wore me down!

I'm going to go all the way back to our first conversation about braces. He told me he needed to tell me something, and he was clearly very nervous. It took him a long time to come out with it, and while I waited I was becoming more and more prepared for him to tell me something awful. When he finally told me he liked women in braces, I couldn't believe he had gotten so nervous over that. It didn't seem like a big deal to me. Keep in mind that at this point he wasn't asking me to get braces. He did feel me out about wearing fakes, and I told him I would be very happy to wear fakes.

I never had any objection to wearing the fakes. I can say with 100% certainty that without the fakes I wouldn't be in real braces today. Seeing the effect they had on Mike really made it fun to wear them. I didn't just wear them at home, either. We used to go to a bar near our place (but not too near) and shoot pool or watch sports about once per week. That was where we spent the majority of our public time with the fakes, and Mike and I both have very fond memories of it. My fakes were very convincing, so all of the staff members there just thought I really had braces. And they had no idea what was really going on between Mike and me - the way he was looking at me, the way I was teasing him with a smile or kiss, or the way he watched me apply my lip gloss. It was a lot of fun.

I wore the fakes for years, and have a lot of good memories because of it. One thing that Mike did was to make plans and take me to do cool things in braces. We went on lots of trips and to cool events where we included the fakes. I think over the years I came to associate the fakes with good memories more and more, and I'm quite sure that helped his case for the real things. One thing about Mike, though, is if he decides he wants to do something with me in braces, he follows through. He doesn't just talk about the things he might like to do some day, he makes them happen.

When he first started talking to me about real braces, I found it very upsetting. I considered this very different from wearing fakes. For a long time he thought I didn't feel as confident in braces, but that's not the case at all. One of my biggest hesitataions was that I already had really straight teeth. I didn't like the idea of having to give some fake answer when people asked me why got them. When I wore the fakes, it was around people we didn't know, so they didn't know what my teeth looked like before, and there was no need to explain. What I've realized since, though, is that most people just don't care. They don't care what my teeth looked like before or why I have braces. I have had several people point out that my teeth were already really straight, and it's still not my favorite conversation to have, but I know what to say and I get through it just fine.

I think one thing that really helped in convincing me was when Mike finally agreed to let me tell my best friend about it. For all the years I wore the fakes, no one knew about it except Mike and me. That was fine with the fakes, but I was having a really hard time thinking of going through this whole process without having a girlfriend I could talk to about it. I just wanted one person who was in on the secret. Plus I really didn't want to have to lie to her about why I was getting treatment. That was really a turning point for me. I told her about it, and then I put my fakes in to show her. She's a pretty open minded girl, and I knew she wouldn't judge. I know it was really hard for Mike to let go of that control, but I'm not sure I would have gotten to this point if he hadn't.

You probably weren't expecting a novel for an answer, but I hope you find my experiences helpful. Before making the decision, Mike also put me in contact with friend's wife who got braces for the same reason. It was definitely helpful to hear her perspective. She had very positive things to say about the experience. I would be happy to do the same for any other wives or girlfriends out there.

And now we are headed out to the pool to enjoy Sunday Funday with lots of sun and white sangria. :)

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« Reply #66 on: 22. May 2017, 04:12:52 AM »
Carrie,
   I appreciate the novel. It saved me from asking a lot more questions. I do have one more. Where did Mike get your fakes from?  Were they comfortable? I guess that's two questions. I may have to get you to talk to my wife.
Thanks again.

Offline MikeB

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« Reply #67 on: 22. May 2017, 19:06:13 PM »
I'll let Carrie answer about the comfort level with her fakes, but I got them from an American company that has since gone out of business. Unless you want to make your own fakes, the Braces Shop here seems like the only game in town.

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« Reply #68 on: 23. May 2017, 02:16:19 AM »
Carrie - thanks for the reply back on the bite stoppers.  Appreciate the feedback.  I'm guessing I'll have some decent sized ones as they said they are concerned about my bite breaking off some of the lower brackets, both in front and in the back.  I am guessing that eating may be the most difficult adjustment.  So, getting my fill of popcorn and other crunchy, chewy foods before braces go on.

Thank you everyone for being so welcoming.

Bradhov - I wanted to answer your question about bite stoppers. I'd like to start by saying that I don't typically do much complaining about anything braces related. I got them for Mike and I certainly don't want to make him feel guilty about any discomfort I experience. But since you asked, and you're getting them yourself, I'll be completely honest.

I hate the bite stoppers. They drive me nuts. It's not very difficult to adjust to how they feel in your mouth, in general. It feels strange not being able to close your teeth all the way together like you're accustomed to, but you get used to that easily enough. The thing I still haven't gotten used to is eating with bite stoppers. Since I can't bite my teeth together, the only place where there is contact between top and bottom is where the bite stops hit my bottom teeth. It makes it very difficult to chew certain foods. Eating has become a bit of a nuisance.

Sorry to give you negative information, but I hope it is helpful. I should also mention that mine are pretty big. I had a bracket come loose after a few weeks in braces. It happened because one of my top teeth was hitting the bracket, so when I went in to get it repaired they made my bite stops bigger. Hopefully yours will be smaller. Good luck!

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« Reply #69 on: 23. May 2017, 19:57:22 PM »
I added a video of Carrie talking about her first month with braces:

http://anonym.to/?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fWurgB-IiU0&t=17s

She also has one talking about her first adjustment. I'll try to get that one edited and added to Flickr, as well.

Offline MikeB

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« Reply #70 on: 24. May 2017, 20:02:31 PM »
Also added the video with Carrie talking about her first adjustment:

http://anonym.to/?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-aW__-o8x8s&t=36s

Some pretty good shots of her braces in this one, even though it's cell phone video and not super high-quality.

Offline WifeInBraces

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« Reply #71 on: 25. May 2017, 03:15:37 AM »
Mr Majestic - I found the fakes to be quite comfortable. There were times when I wore them for an entire weekend. They're basically the same as teeth whitening trays with brackets glued on. The brackets feel kind of weird at first, but I found it a very easy adjustment. And you don't eat with the fakes in, so you don't deal with the same complications you have with real braces.

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« Reply #72 on: 25. May 2017, 04:56:12 AM »
Thanks to you and Mike both.  You are a wealth of information for fellow enthusiasts. I hope you are both loving the journey as much as you show in your pictures.

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« Reply #73 on: 26. May 2017, 02:53:08 AM »
@mrmajestic723 - It's my pleasure. Really.  ;D

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« Reply #74 on: 31. May 2017, 02:47:39 AM »
Not really an update, but just a couple of things of interest. Carrie and I spent the holiday weekend in Tucson. We stayed at a nice resort, we had some nice meals, visited a couple of wineries, and went to a reptile show (as you may have seen in the Flickr photos). On a more somber note, we also visited the grave of one of my comrades who fell while we were in Afghanistan.

We were having a sundowner at the resort with a nice bottle of white wine when I asked her if she was still glad she got braces. She responded, "Absolutely. I wouldn't do any of it differently, and I'm very happy I got braces."

We drove back to Phoenix yesterday and spent most of the day lounging at the pool with a group of friends, some of whom were new to us. One of the new friends was curious about her braces, and mentioned that he'd thought about getting them himself. They talked about it for several minutes, which was interesting to hear.

Last night after the pool we were sitting on the couch and she was playing with her new snake (purchased at the reptile show, now named Henry). I was snacking on some cubed watermelon, and I started to feed her bites of it. It was surprisingly sexy!