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Offline Cassandra

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Are Braces Embarrassing?
« on: 02. June 2016, 04:02:57 AM »
Are they?

I have a feeling the answer might be different depending on what part of the world we live in.

Is headgear embarrassing? What is embarrassing about it? Is it because it's so visible? What makes it so much worse than regular braces?

I am starting to think that part of what attracts me so much to braces is the embarrassment factor. Is that something we all have in common?

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #1 on: 02. June 2016, 06:14:50 AM »
I have to wear braces for 3.5 years, headgear for 2 and a tongue crib for 7 months. The only time I was embarrassed was wearing the tongue crib because I couldn't talk properly.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #2 on: 02. June 2016, 19:39:16 PM »
They are embarrassing at the beginning because you can't speak properly and as you said I think it is part of the attray.

For myself I felt embarrassed as I met people I knew and they didn't know that I would be getting braces.

When meeting new people I didn't feel embarrassed because they didn't know me before probably.

And I feel embarrassed the first time I went out of the ortho office as an adult

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« Reply #3 on: 02. June 2016, 21:06:39 PM »
Not anymore. 

Who cares? People are so narcissistic and self absorbed they won't notice it if a gorilla on a harley davidson came through their living room.  Before the era of people permanently looking at little screens in their hands, it was embarrassing, because people would stare.  Nowadays, no one notices, no one stares. 

A pal and I actually did this experiment.  We had her in headgear and we went to a very upmarket part of town in a fancy coffee-shop.  No one looked, no one blinked, no one cared.  My pal was even "this is disappointing, I wanted to have some shock value!" and there was none, just cold indifference.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #4 on: 02. June 2016, 22:30:32 PM »
I am braces free for over 40 years but back in the day they were hugely embarassing and headgear put you in the front of the geek/nerd/loser category.  I was at my high school reunion 4 years ago and people still remembered my metal smile and antenna.  Things have certainly changed and for the better.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #5 on: 04. June 2016, 23:39:14 PM »
It's all about your attitude - if you're grimacing or trying to hide them, it shows you think you have something to be embarrassed about.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #6 on: 06. June 2016, 18:14:14 PM »
I had braces as a kid and thought they were pretty neat then. I liked showing them off to people and explaining what exactly they were doing. Nothing embarrassing at all.

I almost got braces on again when I was 11, and was told I'd wear them all the way into high school and need lots of elastics. I pretty much burst into tears right there in the office, partly because the idea of going through all that sounded horribly embarrassing. If i had actually gone through with that treatment, I probably would have gotten over the embarrassment factor pretty quickly, especially since I really did still like looking at braces on other people and even imagining braces on myself.

It just made me wonder what the source of that initial embarrassment even was.

After looking through the braces shop here, I really want to get some fakes for myself, and probably eventually will, but the idea of wearing them out and about still sounds embarrassing, especially if I choose something that will effect my speech (and I'm sure I will) and, like I said above, I guess the embarrassment factor is part of the appeal. I just wonder where it came from, since it seems like these days braces aren't anything to be embarrassed about anyway and its all in my head.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #7 on: 08. June 2016, 19:35:36 PM »
I think it depends on the person more than anything else. Some people are just naturally more shy or more easily embarrassed, while others are just impervious to embarrassment. I embarrass fairly easily, and would probably be embarrassed to have braces (and I was, back in junior high school).

My wife is just the opposite. She has fake braces, and is completely unembarrassed to wear them in public. She'll smile and laugh, strike up conversations with random people in bars and at ball games, grin while ordering drinks (I think she likes getting carded more when she wears her braces), etc. She's also mentioned that she'll not be at all embarrassed when she gets her real braces, and I totally believe her based on how she acts with the fakes.

Headgear is a different story for her, though. She'll happily wear it around the house and make videos wearing it, but she won't wear it in public. I guess it's just a bridge too far for her.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #8 on: 21. June 2016, 00:55:38 AM »
As an addendum, I posed this question to my wife, who is getting braces next year. She made a whole YouTube-style video about the topic, talking for about seven minutes about not finding braces at all embarrassing!

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #9 on: 21. June 2016, 01:49:13 AM »
I think they are, that's what turns me on about them.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #10 on: 28. July 2016, 09:29:15 AM »
A little embarassing: sometimes people stare at your braces when you talk...
headgear is much more, because it's so visible...
But embarassment and not having the possibilty to take them off, are the best part of having braces!!!

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #11 on: 03. August 2016, 05:18:20 AM »
My wife has experienced both...the braces themselves tend to be okay, but when she has worn headgear out of the house she can tell when people want to look/stare but try not to. It doesn't bother her, but you can tell many people want to ask about the braces/headgear but don't know what to say. She's not easily embarrassed though, so it may be different for others.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #12 on: 03. August 2016, 17:20:53 PM »
I always wore my headgear in public and enjoyed!!!

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #13 on: 15. September 2016, 21:32:49 PM »
If I saw a girl wearing headgear in public I would instantly ask her out...

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #14 on: 15. September 2016, 23:04:42 PM »
I had fake braces for a couple of years. For me it was more about people finding out they were fake then that it looked like I had braces. Now that I have real braces, I don't try to hide them. I always get bright colored powerchains when I go to the ortho. If someone spends that amount of money for braces, why not enjoy it. If a person bought a $5000 ring or watch or some other piece of jewelry, they would want to show it off. Just think of braces as jewelry for your mouth.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #15 on: 03. October 2016, 16:26:10 PM »
Unexpectedly, yes.

I just got braces on Friday.  I went with full metal and was looking forward to showing them off.  Before my bracketing appointment I wasn't worried about self-consciousness at all.  Over the weekend, I went out on Saturday night, ran errands, and went to church on Sunday, so lots of strangers have seen my braces.  I'm finding it embarrassing to smile and talk normally without trying to hide the braces.  The most embarrassing moment was, ironically, with another adult braces wearer.  I feel like everyone is staring at my braces, but I know its probably all in my head.  At church, though, I was sitting next to a couple in their thirties.  At one point, we were greeting each other.  When I shook the woman's hand, we both smiled, which revealed her full set of ceramic braces.  She definitely noticed my braces, because her eyes widened, she looked directly at my mouth, then nodded her head at me and smiled bigger to make sure I noticed her braces.  On one hand, it was nice, kind of like meeting another member of a secret club.  On the other hand, her braces were so clear and discreet that I was struck, really for the first time, by how obvious and clunky my braces look.

The ortho put on large bite blocks on my back molars that force my jaws apart and cause a noticeable lisp.  No doubt my speech will improve, but right now, people have asked me to repeat myself and my phone's voice commands are confused.  When I tell the phone to "text," which comes out "tesht," the phone runs a google search for "test" instead of bringing up text messages.  Go figure, as much as I've been self-conscious about the appearance of the braces, the inability to speak clearly hasn't been embarrassing at all.  I'm just lisping and spitting my way through it with no shame.  I guess the big metal braces make it obvious to people why I'm having a problem talking, so nobody has mentioned anything.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #16 on: 11. February 2018, 02:00:40 AM »
I am starting to think that part of what attracts me so much to braces is the embarrassment factor. Is that something we all have in common?
I think I am like you... I like to imagine the embarrassment of other wearing brace, especially very visible brace like headgear !

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #17 on: 13. February 2018, 01:21:22 AM »
Embarrassment has zero appeal to me.
Wearing braces with confidence appeals to me.

I like how braces look on adults. I like how I look in braces. Not just in a kinky way. By wearing braces I have no interest in implying that that I have dental issues or I'm an adolescent.  To me it's the braces themselves not their cultural significance or a narrative they invoke.

Somehow, as a kid braces just got baked into my head as what an attractive mouth should have. For the sake of public health I can see why braces should not be jewelry. Still, I can't see my mouth as attractive without them. It's strange.

Anyone else feel this way?
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I've been thinking about the message braces send. I'm a very shy guy and I hate being in the spotlight. Part of me wishes I could wear braces and be normal. Another part of me wants to wear braces to send a message, and knows that people should start thinking about why people wear braces and why people want straight teeth.

As for public health, if people wear lingual retainers indefinitely why not libel braces? They'd be easier to keep clean.
Orthodontic appliances are objects of medicine and come with deferent expectations of risk than an object of sport. If I crash my bike and knock out a tooth someone might by me a beer at the bar.  If I wreck a tooth with fake braces I'm the crazy guy in an entertaining news item. If I wreck my tooth in pursuit of the 'hollywood smile', well I'm normal. extraction of healthy teeth is normal in esthetic treatments.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #18 on: 13. February 2018, 03:44:35 AM »
I have found that having braces as an adult has a mixed effect on me. I usually have to make myself not hide my braces. My natural reaction is to try to hide my braces even though I am not trying to. From the very start of my treatment I have always had colourful ligatures and powerchains. I enjoy having the metal brackets and coloured elastics. The last few times I have been in for an adjustment, I have told the assistants to surprise me with what colour of chain to put on.

In my opinion, most people don't care about the person having braces as much we do about having them.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #19 on: 13. February 2018, 05:44:13 AM »
I dont think they're embarrassing! I get mine this week though so ill find out soon

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« Reply #20 on: 13. February 2018, 06:14:45 AM »
I am a 43 year old male and have a very public business job in the largest city in the USA. I have metal braces, 8.5 months in. Its not embarrassing at all! I flash them a big old metal smile! Who cares! They are your teeth!
You will soon find out that nobody really cares you have braces...
I have a power chain across the tops now, and 2 TADS in my lower jaw. They string a power chain to those from my front lower canines.
They do this on and off. My braces are the 'sure smile' ones and are working really well.
My girlfriend and I have fun (she has a fake set from this store).
I must say that as annoying as they are, I am enjoying them and the whole experience and my teeth and smile is almost a million bucks!
Grab your balls and embrace your braces! LOL!

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #21 on: 13. February 2018, 17:21:54 PM »
Embarrassment has zero appeal to me.
Wearing braces with confidence appeals to me.

I like how braces look on adults. I like how I look in braces. Not just in a kinky way. By wearing braces I have no interest in implying that that I have dental issues or I'm an adolescent.  To me it's the braces themselves not their cultural significance or a narrative they invoke.

Somehow, as a kid braces just got baked into my head as what an attractive mouth should have. For the sake of public health I can see why braces should not be jewelry. Still, I can't see my mouth as attractive without them. It's strange.

Anyone else feel this way?

I completely understand. Growing up and seeing everyone with beautiful, straight teeth with braces has made me attracted to them and makes me relate a beautiful smile to braces.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #22 on: 13. February 2018, 22:07:34 PM »
I don't know that 'embarrassing' is the right word but I certainly understand how people feel self-conscious wearing braces, and maybe a little nervous about what other people might think/say. But then I've never worn braces myself so not sure if I'd feel embarrassed or not!

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #23 on: 13. February 2018, 22:51:37 PM »
As an adult is a choice, you know what is it, why you do that.
As a teenager, is more difficult. You had to have those horrible device, to be beautiful mouth later !

The first day to school with headgear, is probably the worse nightmare ever !!, for me very embarrassing !

sure, a very common fixed brace is not

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #24 on: 20. February 2018, 02:43:49 AM »
I am still getting used to my new braces but i havent been embarrassed by them yet. Trying to have fun with it!

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« Reply #25 on: 20. February 2018, 04:20:04 AM »
6 months in and no embarrassment. But I love them so I am biased against embarrassment. I have even gone with colors. How do yours look Erin? Colors?

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« Reply #26 on: 20. February 2018, 16:43:49 PM »
After a year and a half of metal braces, no embarrassment.  I work in a professional job, but I've decided to have fun with colored ligatures and elastics.  I just give my normal smile and nobody seems to care.

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« Reply #27 on: 20. February 2018, 16:48:23 PM »
I am still getting used to my new braces but i havent been embarrassed by them yet. Trying to have fun with it!

How did it go getting them? What colors did you pick? Are you going to share updates?

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« Reply #28 on: 21. February 2018, 03:14:44 AM »
So far so good, my teeth were sore to begin with but theyre getting better, i went with purple, and i'll probably share some updates every now and then! Thanks for the interest everyone!

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« Reply #29 on: 21. February 2018, 17:24:10 PM »
Very nice. Looking forward to seeing your progress.

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« Reply #30 on: 25. March 2018, 12:33:52 PM »
Yes and I personally feel that is one of the biggest attractions is that they are there and will not come off. It's even better with headgears especially when the one (preferably a girl) is wearing it and is trying to hide it and cannot hide it all the way because it covers the whole head :) I love the embarrassment factor

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« Reply #31 on: 25. March 2018, 23:28:07 PM »
my wife had braces - ceramic and not metal, and she had no issues really.  She was self conscious about having them as an adult and pretty embarrassed whenever she talked for the first few months.  But, after talking to others who have braces - the practice had 25% adult patients, she soon stopped caring what people thought.   I'm getting braces soon and deciding between metal and ceramic.  If end up with metal, I suspect I'll be like my wife and embarrassed at least at first.

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Re: Are Braces Embarrassing?
« Reply #32 on: 27. March 2018, 02:22:52 AM »
It's not so bad! I got used to mine pretty quick and now never even think about them when i'm in public

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« Reply #33 on: 27. March 2018, 02:33:55 AM »
I am looking forward to braces, but still a bit nervous.  I've thought about getting them for a few years and it is just now working out schedule and financially wise to get them

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« Reply #34 on: 27. March 2018, 02:36:31 AM »
Good luck with them! You'll get used to them quickly and the payoff will be worth it!

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« Reply #35 on: 27. March 2018, 15:07:13 PM »
I was self conscious the first week or so, but you quickly realize that most people don’t them give a second thought - unless they too have braces, but then it’s just a conversation topic for a few minutes.

In retrospect I wish I had gone with metal. I love the look on others, but just couldn’t pull the trigger when it came to my own brackets.

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« Reply #36 on: 28. March 2018, 04:20:02 AM »
thanks for the encouragement.  I know I'll have metal on bottom because of my overbite, but I do have choice on the uppers, at least for the teeth that are seen when you smile.  I'll be getting bands on the back molars.

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« Reply #37 on: 29. March 2018, 18:10:49 PM »
At first I was embarrassed because I was 21 and just getting braces for the first time. I was very self conscious and braces didn't help that, at first. Once I got comfortable with the braces I realized that there wasn't anything to be embarrassed about and people really didn't say anything or bring it up. It was the best decision I've made!

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« Reply #38 on: 30. March 2018, 01:44:15 AM »
I've only had one comment from one person since I've had them, people dont seem to pay much attention or at least dont mention it!

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« Reply #39 on: 30. March 2018, 07:21:56 AM »
So all in all people really won't focus on ones braces due to the fact that in passing by they can simply be hidden and if someone does focus on ones braces, which can cause the embarrassment factor, it's because it's more of an up close sighting. So with JUST braces on seems to be a slim to none embarrassment for the wearer, then would you consider your braces/Orthodontia embarrassing if you were walking in public with Reversible Headgear held tightly against your face or a Combination Headgear êngulfing your head with obnoxiously bright colored head straps?:

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« Reply #40 on: 23. April 2018, 22:50:45 PM »
The only time I felt embarrassed wearing braces as a teenager was at sleepovers, when I had to strap into my headgear. But even that wasn't all that bad. The first time my friends saw it they made some jokes, but that was it. No one seemed up think any more of it.

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« Reply #41 on: 01. November 2018, 21:23:20 PM »
It's partly embarrasing because no-one is having the appliance that you are wearing, so you feel like an outsider.

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« Reply #42 on: 05. January 2019, 00:15:47 AM »
I never felt embarrassed only self conscious though I have always been when it came to my teeth even now after braces. I wish I was one of those people that could just smile big - braces or not, but that’s just not me.  So yes the person wearing them sometimes can feel embarrassed depending on their personality, but they aren’t embarrassing at all and most people don’t care and those who do are only curious because they probably are thinking about getting braces. Wearing them you think everyone cares and they don’t.

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« Reply #43 on: 19. March 2019, 11:32:15 AM »
Not at all! Be proud of them.

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« Reply #44 on: 21. March 2019, 14:51:21 PM »
I never felt embarrassed only self conscious though I have always been when it came to my teeth even now after braces. I wish I was one of those people that could just smile big - braces or not, but that’s just not me.  So yes the person wearing them sometimes can feel embarrassed depending on their personality, but they aren’t embarrassing at all and most people don’t care and those who do are only curious because they probably are thinking about getting braces. Wearing them you think everyone cares and they don’t.

This pretty well sums up how I felt when I had my braces during my early 30s.. You think everyone will notice, but really most people don't give them more than a passing notice.